The City of London, Ontario, Canada - A woman became a surrogate mother for her infertile daughter, and will
give birth to her own grandchild. Cathy Donnelly, 58, is six months
pregnant, and will welcome her seventh grandchild into the world. After
two years of trying, daughter Shannon Fischer and husband Jamie
discovered they couldn’t conceive due to scarring in Shannon's uterus.
So, Mrs Donnelly, mother of three and a grandmother of six, volunteered
to be a surrogate mother for her daughter.
Mrs Fischer recalls: 'The day I came home from my surgery, mum said "I'll do it". She didn't hesitate.'
Mrs
Donnelly, from London in Ontario, Canada, says: 'I felt bad for them - I
just thought what’s nine months
of my life? They are going to have a
child for the rest of theirs. It's not like I'm busy doing anything.'
Michael
Murray, specialist at the Fertility Medical Center, says, though there
have been cases of mothers acting as surrogate for their daughters
before,
it is typically something the medical community does not advise.
He
said: 'Usually, it’s a close friend or a sister that acts as the
gestational carrier - women who are over 45-years-old are not normally
in good enough health.
'Pregnancy for older women is much riskier.
The most common complications are high blood pressure, gestational
diabetes and premature child birth.'
But they were risks Mrs
Donnelly was willing to accept, and, while she admits her pregnancy
hasn’t been easy, she has had no complications so far.
'It was long process and involved a heavy dose of fertility drugs for both of us; but in the end, it all paid off.
'I
was standing in line for a coffee when I got a call from my doctor
confirming I was pregnant. I was just bawling - people must have thought
someone close to me died. But it has been challenging. Now I make sure
people aren’t staring or looking at me because they’re probably thinking
‘look at that old lady.'
Mrs Donnelly said she did question
whether she was doing the right thing and if everything would work out
okay until she started to feel the baby move. Now her only concerns are
about how she will feel once she has given birth.
'I don't know if I'll feel like I've lost her, I don't know how I'm going to feel,' Mrs Donnelly confesses.
Her
daughter Shannon plans to name her daughter Zoey Hope Catherine after
her mother. And her the whole experience has made her cherish their
mother-daughter relationship even more: 'It just changes your
relationship 360 degrees. We were close before but it’s just on a whole
new level. I want to be like she is to my own daughter, that caring and
willing to do stuff for her.'
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