When I Was Younger, I Wasn't Aware I Was Blind - Cobhams Asuquo
Song writer/music producer per excellence Cobhams Asuquo is one man everyone needs to listen to!
CEO/ Head of Productions of CAMP (Cobhams Asuquo Music Productions), he was responsible for Asa's highly acclaimed international album ASA and has graced countless artists sleeve credits as producer and writer.
In this revealing piece, Cobham talks about his life as a blind man and the awesome lessons he's learnt being blind.
I’m a dreamer, and fortunately for me, a lot of things I have dreamt about in my life have come true. I believe strongly that one of the strong elements that fuel my very strong sense of imagination and my ability to dream is the gift of blindness. And I’m going to share with you, a couple of things that I have leant and a couple of life lessons that could be invaluable to you as well that I have learnt from Blindness.
So to start with, I will state the obvious fact that I was born blind. No one else in my family of six children is blind. There’s no known cause. No links. No explanation. Just the reality that I cannot see with my eyes.
I was born and raise in the other side of the military barracks. I lived
in a small block of 18 two bedroom flats. I shared a flat with my two
parents, my three siblings and whatever stray pet came out way at a
time. As well as my father’s Honda Roadmaster 180 Motorcycle, which
slept in the living room with me and my siblings for fear that one of
its mirrors might be stolen by morning
In my neighborhood there were always something to look forward to. My
mornings were characterized by news of whose pumping machine had been
stolen by morning or squabbles between neighbours over who had eaten
their chicken. Actually some people try to resolve the chicken situation
by tying to attach a piece of red things on their chicken legs. I don’t
know how well it works…
Now, blindness does not have any physical, psychological or social
meaning. Since I’ve never experienced sight, I wasn’t aware that I was
without sight. And so, I indulged in the innocence of young boyhood. I
ran downstairs, jumped over gutters, played hard. Fought even harder.
And got into any imaginable trouble that a Skinny young child could get
into.
On a number of Occasions, I ran into walls. Ran into people. Ran into
furniture’s so hard that that observers will shake their head and say in
Pidgin English:
‘Person wey we dey feel sorry for, e no dey feel sorry for himself.’
Of course my response to such a rebuke was to scurry off and catch up
with my friends and hide whatever stray bruises I had sustained away
from my mother’s disapproving eyes.
Initially, scoffed at other people’s well meaning concern and pity,
because I do not understand what the force was all about. As I grew
older and I gained more understanding of the intricacies of living as a
sightless person in a world designed for sighted people, I was faced
with the looming possibility of failure in my life. But what I actually
considered to be much worse was people were ready to excuse my failure
because of my disability. Which brings me to my first lesson.
- Do not Excuse Failure, for any reason on any account
When I turned 10, I was enrolled in a Primary Boarding School for the
Blind. Fast forward to graduation day, teachers and other well wishers
were giving us advice on going into the outside world. We were forwarned
that we would come across people who be genuinely mean to us. People
will snatch away our guide canes, pull out our typewriter ribbons, not
give us the correct change, and generally just take advantage of us
because we are blind.
And from my experience, and I’m sure most of you must have discovered, not all public opinion is correct opinion.
So, I personally decided that I didn’t want to want to worry myself
about Guide Cane Snatchers, Ribbon Type writer thieves, and the likes. I
decided not to take that advice. I don’t know if it was conscious, but
decided to just trust. I figured that there was so many unfortunate
things in life that has happened to you regardless of whether or not you
were blind. So, why should I heap on an extra burden of worry on
myself just because I’m blind.
- This is my second lesson, and it’s a tough one, to Trust.
I have learnt this from blindness to trust. Sometimes, even when I have no reason to.
Now, as a child I was quite a Kid to have fun with and play little pranks on. My older brother taught me how to jump over open street gutters so anytime I was walking with friends and they inform me that we were approaching a gutter, I would jump – No questions asked.
Pretty soon, I discovered that my friends were telling me to jump even when there were no gutters. Just so they could have a laugh. But even after I found out, I still continued to jump. I chose to trust them because quite honestly, staying out of the smelly sewage gutters was very very important to me.
Now some people might ask. Can’t a person be too trusting? But I think
trust has no expiration date. Blindness has taught me to keep trusting.
To keep hoping. To keep believing. And by the way in case you haven’t
heard, technology came along, thankfully. And not only did it take the
rhythms from the typewriter, it also took away the typewriters
themselves and replaced them with computers and screen readers.
And as for my guide cane story, I’ve yet to meet one friend of mine whose had their white canes snatched from them.
As a matter of fact, at some point I got too desperate and I went ahead
in my first year in the University to buy myself a Mercedes Benz Wagon.
It broke down on the first day I bought it. And I remember my friend,
we were trying to change the tire, and anyone who called me I will say,
you know what, I’m having a little car trouble. And thankfully, we can
afford better cars and I have a faithful driver, and he’s under the
watchful eyes of my wife. So no guide cane ‘stealers’ and all of that.
- Be blind to be focused
Now some time ago, my wife and I, we walked into a duty free shop at an
Airport. We wanted to buy a bottle of water. Before I knew it, she had
stopped by to browse through a magazine, had picked up a book… seemingly
normal actions for her but I found it quite alarming.
Now, here we were. We went in to buy an item but ended up browsing for
other stuffs. And that was when it hit me. Sight, sometimes, is a
distraction. Now, I have to say that when my wife goes shopping, no
matter how good her intentions are to purchase only the items on her
list, she somehow manages to come home with extras.
Good Deals! She will like to call them. She knows a lot about good
deals, and sales and half sales. And I have to say my wife is a
fantastic wonderful woman.
Now don’t get me wrong, sight is a precious gift. But on your way to
your destination, what you see, can also be a big distraction from your
goal. So, I have learnt that you have to be blind in order to be
focused. Focus is blindness in a sense. Im sure you can relate to this
because you have been focused on your goal and attained your successes
by being blind to several things in your life.
Now, we live in a culture that esteems sight over blindness. And
associates blindness with weakness. Yet, blindness in all of its
weakness, I have drawn some key strength in my life’s journey.
When I love the veil of childhood innocence, the brutal reality of
blindness stared me in the face. Self pity, and failure loomed over my
shoulder. Some, I’m sure would have excused me if I became a failure.
But I found it more fulfilling to break away from the expectations of
mediocrity. To successfully navigate and negotiate my way through life.
Even if it ruffled the feather of those who genuinely cared about me.
