It is true that not everyone will love or like you no matter
what you do or who you are, but the following steps can in many ways
help dictate the way people look at you, making your personality to
command respect even before you come close.
1. Always treat others how you want to be treated.
This means being kind to everybody. Do you like being insulted? Of
course you don’t! So don’t insult others! When you’re put into a
difficult situation, ask yourself "How would I feel if someone did this
to me?" before doing or saying anything. If you treat others the way you
want to be treated, they’ll treat you the same way, and they’ll respect
you.
2. Help others.
This means talking to that shy new girl. Or hanging out with that
lonely person. Or helping other people with their troubles. Give helpful
advice to others and help them with homework or tasks that they need to
accomplish. Don’t be self-centered, and always help that person in
need. They will remember that, and as a result, they will love and
appreciate you for being caring.
3. Be social.
Make conversations with new people. The more people, the better.
Don’t restrict yourself to the same 3 or 4 friends. Branch out to new
people, or even old acquaintances that you haven’t spoken to in a long
time. Talk to them and be nice to them. You never know what you might
discover about them. Maybe you had more in common with them than you
thought! Besides, if you don’t talk to people, they won’t love you, will
they?
4. Listen to others.
The more people like, trust, and love you, the more often they will
come to you seeking help with their problems. When this happens, listen
to them. Don’t blow them off and say something like "I don’t have time
right now," or "I don’t really care." Listen patiently to their story,
and then talk it out with them. Sometimes people just want to vent, and
they’ll come to you to do so. If you’re able to listen to their
problems, they’ll love you even more.
5. Compliment others.
If you noticed that the girl sitting across from you got a new
haircut, compliment her on it! It will make her feel good, and in
return, you’ll feel good. Karma comes around, and if you’re nice to
people, they’ll be nice to you back! Once you start complimenting
people, you’ll more than likely get a few compliments back, and other
people will love you!
6. Love others!
Before getting other people to love you, you need to love them! You
can’t expect a person that you don’t love and care about to love you
back. You need to love each and every person (or at least care about
them) before they can love you.
7. Be as positive as possible.
Nobody wants to be around someone who’s grouchy and mean all day!
Stay positive and release good vibes! If you have had a bad day, learn
to let go of those bad vibes, and don’t let your mood affect the way you
talk to other people. Nobody likes a grumpy person.
8. Be yourself.
Nobody likes a fake person. Don’t change yourself to fit other
people, and don’t try to be a people pleaser either. Be fair and non
judgemental of others. Embrace who you are, and different people around
you. Whether you are talking to a popular person or that shy girl, treat
everybody equally.
9. Love yourself first!
As mentioned previously, you need to love yourself. Write down all
the good qualities about yourself, and strive to correct those qualities
you
don’t like. Learn how to be confident, as this is a crucial
step in making other people love you. Embrace who you really are, even
your flaws. Nobody’s perfect, but as long as you love who you are, you
don’t need to be perfect!
Try these nine simple steps above and like a magician, you will be
amazed at how many, will not be able to resist your personality.
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