RELATIONSHIPS: 8 reasons why you shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ too soon

Believe us, the best parts of a relationship are the early beginnings where this is a certain amount of uncertainty in the minds of both partners. Going weak in the knees just looking at her, getting goose bumps every time she touches you, spending nights talking to each other over the phone – all this, once lost may never come back.

Now we know you’re head over heels over the girl you met last week. No matter how good the first few dates went by, no matter how ‘compatible’ you have begun to feel already, you must not hurry into saying those three words – not just yet. While you may be totally into her already, she may need some time to think about where your relationship is heading. There is a correct time for everything, and before that, you must not overwhelm her by saying ‘I Love You’. Here are 8 reasons why you must never say those three words too soon.

1. It Kills The Excitement
Believe us, the best parts of a relationship are the early beginnings where this is a certain amount of uncertainty in the minds of both partners. Going weak in the knees just looking at her, getting goose bumps
every time she touches you, spending nights talking to each other over the phone – all this, once lost may never come back. By saying ‘I Love You’, you put a full stop to this excitement.

2. Your Obsession Is On Display
It makes you look like a possessive, obsessive, desperate fool who wants nothing but a girlfriend in life. If you plan to spend your future with her, she better be impressed by your personality. Don’t come across as an insecure guy greedy for love.

3. You Fail To See The Reality
There’s a difference between infatuation and love – a difference only time can make clear. By confessing your so-called love for her, you force your mind to believe that you actually love her. Your feelings may die down with a few more dates, but you’d be forcing yourself too hard to believe that she really is the one. Not just that, it puts immense pressure on the girl too. You’re better off without it, man.

4. It Could Lead To A Heartbreak
Like men, a lot of women too are commitment phobic. While you may be all set to take the plunge without even thinking about it thoroughly, it might put the girl in question in a dilemma. And you know how it ends when a woman isn’t sure of her own feelings. You may end up losing what could have been yours, had you given it some more time.

5. You’ll Be Judged
Even if you mean it, wait for the perfect time to say it. It’s not hard for men to fall in love in just a few days. But most women, my friend, are judging every move of yours. You may come across as vain and immature to a woman if you say ‘I Love You’ too soon. This ruins your chances totally. Do you want that?

6. What You See May Not Be Real
To love people, you have know them very closely, if not inside out. Chances are, you were trying really hard at being ‘courteous’ and so was she. That might not be the real her. You must spend enough time with your date in order to know them personally, beyond their job descriptions and favourite drinks.

7. It May Result In A Disastrous Relationship
Saying ‘I Love You’ could also make the girl believe that she loves you too. And once the words are exchanged, there’s no damage control possible. A half baked relationship where the partners are clueless about how they really feel and yet, commit to each other for life is the worst set up ever. It will only end in bitterness.

8. It May Draw You Two Apart
Once awkward around each other, there is only little you can do to make up for it with your girl. Even though she may go on to love you in the near future, rushing in to commitment may just ruin your chances. She might get creeped out by your ‘love’ and decide to move away.

Source: MENSXP

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