OPINION: Why Nigerian Girls Should NOT Be Obsessed With Men's Height!
Post written by Onyiridike:
I am a Nigerian lady with a lot of experience about life especially when it comes to relationship and marriage. Experience is NOT just passing through a situation but what you did with the situation.
Obviously, our young ladies always list ridiculous criteria that a man they will date/marry MUST possess. Among those ridiculous criteria, height is always a priority. Gone are the days when character is placed above physical appearance.
When I was an undergraduate, a certain young man approached me and told me how he
loved me and wanted to date me. He is an enterprising young man, very intelligent and handsome. However, he is not very tall; just 5ft. 7 inches in height. Of course, young ladies don't take decisions independently. This is why they are easily influenced by friends and relatives. My friends then said: "Never! My man MUST be 6ft and above, so tell him capital NO". I rejected the young man.
Today, he is happily married with a lady who is by far more beautiful and talented than me. I almost shed tears on their wedding day. Meanwhile, all the so-called very tall men that I dated are ONLY interested in my vagina.
So far I have learnt the following:
Fortunately, I repented because it occured to me that all those times, I was ONLY playing my friend's script. I wanted to feel among and brag that my boyfriend is equally tall. I gave a guy who is not very tall a chance and I started enjoying my paradise on earth. We are married now.
- 1. Most tall men believe that their height is a 'master' key to every ladies heart and therefore, their ONLY achievement is ' I am a tall dude and ladies are dying for me'.
- 2. Most tall guys are NOT caring because they have this notion that a lady should count herself lucky to date them.
- 3. I am yet to understand that unique or remarkable thing about tall men.
All my life, I have not come across such a wonderful person. He has it all:
I am not in any way trying to say that tall guys are bad. As a lady, I am only advising other Nigerian ladies to see a man beyond height. The height issue is over-hyped and even unnecessary. You may NOT get a second chance like me.
- 1. He is God-fearing and generous.
- 2. He is handsome and a great orator
- 3. He is educated and intelligent
- 4. He cooks for me when I am tired (caring)
- 5. He satisfies me sexually ( oh! What a heavenly feeling)
- 6. He got a good dress sense
- 7. He is social
- 8. Among others
Finally, based on my experience, I have come up with a quote:
"A man is NOT known by his height but by his heart (bravery) and meritorous achievements".
