The word ‘worry’ as defined by Oxford Dictionary means ‘to allow one’s
mind to dwell on troubles; is a thing that causes anxiety; a disturbed
state of mind’.
Some years ago, I used to get worried over little
things, things that are ordinarily ‘worryless’. I realized later that
the more I dwell on these needless matters, the higher my blood pressure
becomes, the uglier I become and the more worried I become. Then I
decided not to be worried over them anymore. But how could I live a
worry-free life? I chose to do or/and not to do these 3 things I am
sharing with you. Here they are:
Say “I am sorry” When You Are Wrong
One
act that has become a part of me is to apologize. As a matter of fact, I
did that to a junior friend about an hour ago. I say it to my
colleagues, at work, to my friends to my neighbors and even to my
students. The moment I find I am wrong, I say sorry without taking long
or thinking twice. The other day, I had a poor encounter with a young
lady and after realizing it, i went to her house and told her I was
sorry for my misdeed and it was all over. She even appreciated it
because she was surprised. If I had not done that, I would still be
carrying that luggage around and invariably giving myself a heavy heart.
So, say sorry whenever you are wrong. It takes nothing away from you.
“If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically”- Dale Carnegie
Never Expect “Thank You” or Anything from Anyone
It’s
time to confess this. I was a long time landlord in the Expectancy
Estate, always looking forward to hear a beneficiary say, ‘thank you’ to
me. I lived in that estate so much that I built a mansion there. But
thank goodness for self-development that made me realize this: The more
you expect things from anyone and you don’t get it, the more worried and
disturbed you become. Thus, lower your expectations from people or if
possible, expect nothing from them. That was my saving grace. Today,
instead of expecting a ‘thank you’ from anyone, I am the first to say it
first. And when he thanks me first, I reply with this phrase, “Thank
you for thanking me”. In essence, never expect thanks from anyone
because if you expect it and don’t get it, it infuriates you.
“Blessed are those who do not expect anything for they will not be disappointed” – Anonymous
Inform One Who Offends You
If
you want your life to be full of worry, always keep grudges in your
mind. Somebody, to paraphrase said that: the world would be a better
place if we talk to each other instead of talking about each other. This
is very true, walk-up to anyone that offended you, nicely, calmly and
responsibly tell him how he wronged you. Except you did it wrongly (or
that the person is a serial wrongdoer) he would appreciate it. It he’s
an elderly person or a boss, what can you do? I don’t know but for me, I
do tell a mate and that gets if off my head and mind and I become free!
“Grudges
are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can, apologize when
you should and let go of what you cannot change” – Anonymous.
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