Why Some Nigerian Wives Won't Make Heaven (Pictures Attached)
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Women are known to be more caring and
loving but the same cannot be said of most Nigerian wives when it comes
to how they treat their house helps.
Most Nigerian women will not
make heaven because of what they did and are still doing to their house
helps. These women are the worst perpetrators of domestic violence.
Unfortunately they get away with it because we refuse to report them.
They
bring in little children in the name of helping train them in school
only to abuse and use them for house labor. The child does all the
chores from filling up drums with water, to washing piles of clothes,
and cleaning the entire house.
The child also goes to the market
to and fro on foot, carrying heavy loads on the head and still get back
home to help madam in the kitchen.
This child does all these
standing or bending down. It doesn’t matter if the child is tired and
almost fainting. Any mistake of any sort is greeted with physical and
verbal abuse.
They are usually the last to eat be it breakfast or
dinner and they do this in one corner of the kitchen, that’s if the
food is not the left over from every other person’s plate.
This
child is also the last to go to bed at night, yet the first to wake in
the morning, cleaning and preparing everything every other person would
need for the day.
These children have no childhood because they
barely have time to do children’s stuff, and often don’t attend same
school as madam’s children.
They only get to walk to school after madam’s children have gotten to their own school. Even time to read is a luxury.
In
the case of female teenagers who are brought in as helps, some madams
cut wrappers into pieces and these serve as pads during their monthly
flow. They use, wash and dry these napkins for subsequent use.
Most
of their under wears are torn and ‘hand me down’ from their madams
which may not be their sizes. They have no option but to tie both ends
so that the oversized underwear doesn’t fall off their waists.
Most
of these girls are permanently on low cut or they use scarf to cover
their unkempt hair. If they complain of not feeling fine, they are not
taken seriously. They never have the luxury of being taken to any
hospital for proper medication.
The closest chemist comes to
their rescue instead with trial and error treatments. Even when they are
visibly dizzy, tired and in need of bed rest, these madams insist they
must continue with their chores.
They are easily spotted amongst
other kids. They usually sleep in the store, their mattress or mats are
folded every morning and their clothes are kept in ‘Ghana must go’ bags
just by the corner.
Their bags always get ransacked by madam on
any slight suspicion and they are beaten mercilessly when whatever madam
is looking for is not found.
These house helps are often
embarrassed and beaten in the presence of madam’s children and visitors.
Their self esteem and self worth is reduced to nothing. They are often
reminded that their lives mean nothing.
Some women take this
madness a notch higher using razor blade to cut deep into these girls
skin. Others rub pepper in their vaginas or anus when these children
misbehave or even when they didn’t do anything wrong.
Some of
these helps are also sexually molested by either madam’s grown up sons,
brothers and even husbands. And if madam ever finds out, she blames the
house help, beats her up while accusing her of seducing them.
If
the molestation results in pregnancy, the girls suffer the worst beating
of their lives and are forced to get an abortion. Some of them are even
sent away so that madam’s marriage can be protected.
Some women
have emptied pots of boiling water and have also used hot irons on their
house helps. This is what we read in the newspapers or on the internet
daily.
Our wives, mothers, sisters, friends and bible clutching
church members have become monsters and perpetrators of domestic
violence and they do it to their house helps, their step children, their
nephews, nieces and orphans.
At a tender age, some of these
children already have excruciating back and waist pains due to over
labor. Some have chronic migraines due to inadequate rest and getting
constantly hit on the head. It is not surprising that some of these
children end up with zero self esteem.
Madam, it is foolishness to be mean to your house helps, yet leave your children in their care.
They have access to your every meal and water. In fact, the entire safety of your family is in their hands.
If they decide to be vengeful, it will be brutal because your children and food are not safe.
They
can set your house on fire or even drop their faeces, saliva, urine and
poison into your food. You are very vulnerable and you will be the
biggest loser if they decide to deal with you the same way you have been
dealing them.
It is true some house helps will never see you as
family no matter how nice you treat them, but don’t stop doing good
because it is the best and the wisest thing to do. Love and treat them
like your own children. Don’t forget that your children are watching
your actions and learning from you.
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