Some Nigerians in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) have reacted to
the strange drift of women making marriage or relationship proposals to
their male counterparts.
They expressed mixed views over the trend in separate with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Friday in Abuja.
They
noted that although the development was alien to Nigeria’s culture, but
it was becoming trendy in recent times due to increasing influence of
western lifestyle, modernisation and pressure to get married.
According
to some Nigerians, women who make marriage proposals to men should be
applauded for their confidence, rather than ridiculed, condemned or
labeled “desperate’’.
However, others said they were against the
trend, adding that such proposals have been and should remain the sole
responsibility of the man.
Mr Abdul Sarki of Garki 2 said : “Some
men of marriageable age delay proposing to ladies they love due to
indecisiveness, poor financial status and other economic realities.
“Thank
God for modernisation, women are not restricted to seek what they want,
and even asking men to marry them when they feel they are suitable ”.
“The
society should stop judging or condemning women that propose marriages
to men, but rather applaud and encourage them for taking the bold
step,’’ he urged.
Mrs Julie Fadason, a resident in Asokoro said
she proposed to her husband due to age factor and the need to start
bearing children before menopause.
“I had to take the bull by the
horn when I felt no marriage proposal was forthcoming despite being in a
relationship for over five years with my husband.
” We were both not getting younger and we needed to act fast since we both wanted children,” she said.
According
to her, they have been married for over 10 years now, and she has no
regrets for taking the initiative to propose to him.
Similarly,
Mrs Jummy Okewole, a mother of two, said she was advised to propose to
her husband four years ago by some friends and close relatives.
”
As at the time we were dating, he had no stable job, but had prospects
and was responsible that was why I heeded to advise from people close to
me and proposed to him.
“Now, God has blessed him with a very good job, that he has even asked me to resign from my work and opened a business for me.”
Okewole,
therefore stressed that financial status should not be used as a
yardstick for Marriage proposal, rather love and loyalty should be
considered.
Mrs Jummai Adamu, said she was under a lot of
pressure from her family and close friends that was why she proposed to
her husband.
” Even though we have talked about settling down in
the future, but my family and some friends contributed in making me to
propose to my husband.
“Two of my younger sisters were already planning for their wedding, and they wanted me as the eldest to settle down before them.
“That was why I asked him to marry me or else I will settle down with another suitor, ”she said.
However,
Miss Joy Obaseki, a spinster living in Karu said she could not make a
marriage proposal to a suitor despite its growing trend in modern
societies.
“I can not, because he might not respect me in future, especially when we have misunderstandings.
Similarly,
Mr Anthony Adams a resident of Jabi said as a man it was his
responsibility to propose to a woman and not the other way round.
“I
feel that makes me less of a man because I am the one to take care of
her and our children, so I will propose when I am ready.
“Since she is not paying the dowry, why would she make the marriage proposal?’’ he said. (NAN)
The
News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) recalls that some female have recently
taken the bull by the horn by proposing to their partners, like Judge
Judy, a American TV courtroom personality.
Another example is
Alecia Moore, popularly known as Pink, an American singer who proposed
to her husband Carey Hart in June 2005.
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