As a matter of respect, you should learn where to draw the line when conversing with other women.
Once in a relationship, partners are
expected to exercise a greater level of control on what they say and of
course, what they do.
Especially with members of the opposite sex,
there is a limit to the permissible things you can say, and a cap to the
information you can divulge. This is because constant communication and
deep talks enable bonds and that's not what you want to encourage or
enable when you already have a relationship or marriage.
It is disrespectful to your partner
when you let out some private things to other women. Not knowing the
right manner to relate with other people creates problems you should be
avoiding at all costs, not creating.
It is disrespectful to your partner when you let out some private things to other women. [Credit: Everyday Feminism]
So what are the things you really should keep yourself from saying once you are married [or in a relationship]?
1. I need someone to talk to
Never do this, except you are talking to a
relationship counsellor or marriage therapist. Even at that, this
article here advises that it is better to have tried communicating with
your partner first before seeking other people's opinions.
Your confidant, adviser, secret-holder has to
be your wife or partner, especially on issues and matters that have to
do with your relationship.
Get your relationship validation from the woman you're in a relationship with. Not someone else. [Credit: Nickie Petraki]
2. Do you think I'm a good husband?
If you need validation from anyone, it has to be your wife and no one else.
3. You have boyfriend, don't you?
Let's even pretend for one second that this does not sound totally wrong coming from you, a married man.
Let's pretend you asked innocently and without
any selfish/sexual intentions, what kind of message is this supposed to
send to the woman being asked?
Eight times out of 10, she'll probably think you are hitting on her, except you're related by blood.
This is to be avoided by all means, no matter how pure your intentions are.
No matter how pure your intentions are, getting too close with
other women will attract your partner's annoyance/suspicion. [Credit:
Theminecraftserver
4. Let's hang out
Asking another woman this question once you
are married or in a serious relationship should never cross your mind,
except your wife will be there or it's compulsory for business purposes.
Remember it is better to avoid sticky situations that try to get out of them.
5. We haven't done it in a long time
Your sexual history or problems are not to be
discussed with another woman, except, of course, maybe she is your
therapist or counsellor.
Even
at that, it is logical to try to always try settle with your
partner/wife before getting ANY other person involved!Hold that thought
right there, bruh. That's way too much information to be giving someone
else except a counsellor or someone with whom the chances of a sexual
connection is zero.
If you're not at couple's therapy or having
this conversation with your wife, then you should not be having this
conversation. Doing so could lead to finding what you did not bargain
for.
Or maybe that's exactly your intention from the onset.
Source:
Pulse Nigeria
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Here's how not to relate with other women when you are in a relationship
As a matter of respect, you should learn where to draw the line when conversing with other women.
Once in a relationship, partners are
expected to exercise a greater level of control on what they say and of
course, what they do.
Especially with members of the opposite sex,
there is a limit to the permissible things you can say, and a cap to the
information you can divulge. This is because constant communication and
deep talks enable bonds and that's not what you want to encourage or
enable when you already have a relationship or marriage.
It is disrespectful to your partner
when you let out some private things to other women. Not knowing the
right manner to relate with other people creates problems you should be
avoiding at all costs, not creating.
It is disrespectful to your partner when you let out some private things to other women. [Credit: Everyday Feminism]
So what are the things you really should keep yourself from saying once you are married [or in a relationship]?
1. I need someone to talk to
Never do this, except you are talking to a
relationship counsellor or marriage therapist. Even at that, this
article here advises that it is better to have tried communicating with
your partner first before seeking other people's opinions.
Your confidant, adviser, secret-holder has to
be your wife or partner, especially on issues and matters that have to
do with your relationship.
Get your relationship validation from the woman you're in a relationship with. Not someone else. [Credit: Nickie Petraki]
2. Do you think I'm a good husband?
If you need validation from anyone, it has to be your wife and no one else.
3. You have boyfriend, don't you?
Let's even pretend for one second that this does not sound totally wrong coming from you, a married man.
Let's pretend you asked innocently and without
any selfish/sexual intentions, what kind of message is this supposed to
send to the woman being asked?
Eight times out of 10, she'll probably think you are hitting on her, except you're related by blood.
This is to be avoided by all means, no matter how pure your intentions are.
No matter how pure your intentions are, getting too close with
other women will attract your partner's annoyance/suspicion. [Credit:
Theminecraftserver
4. Let's hang out
Asking another woman this question once you
are married or in a serious relationship should never cross your mind,
except your wife will be there or it's compulsory for business purposes.
Remember it is better to avoid sticky situations that try to get out of them.
5. We haven't done it in a long time
Your sexual history or problems are not to be
discussed with another woman, except, of course, maybe she is your
therapist or counsellor.
Even
at that, it is logical to try to always try settle with your
partner/wife before getting ANY other person involved!Hold that thought
right there, bruh. That's way too much information to be giving someone
else except a counsellor or someone with whom the chances of a sexual
connection is zero.
If you're not at couple's therapy or having
this conversation with your wife, then you should not be having this
conversation. Doing so could lead to finding what you did not bargain
for.
Or maybe that's exactly your intention from the onset.
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